“The Lonely Hunter: How Our Search for Love Is Broken,” a book about loneliness and being single, is written by Aimée Lutkin. Today, she is a guest on Episode 38 of the “There Are No Nice Guys” podcast.
In her interview, Aimée shares her insights on embracing the single life, inner transformation, loneliness, and removing the stigma of being a single woman. We uncover a lot in this discussion.
What’s wrong with being single forever?
It all started at a dinner party. Someone asked Aimée about her romantic life. Her answer shocked her dinner mates.
“I don’t really know if I’m ever going to date anyone ever again.”
People, especially couples, hate to hear that. Everyone pushed back by offering advice on how Aimée could fix her problem. Although, why was it such a problem?
That’s when Aimée wrote, “When Can I Say I’ll Be Alone Forever?” for Jezebel. The essay drew attention and eventually led to her book.
The pandemic changed dating.
The pandemic, and the political climate of this country, made an impact on the dating scene. Heck, it interrupted Aimée’s long-distance romance. (Don’t worry. She’s still friends with the guy.)
We discuss the effect the pandemic has had on dating, including the silver lining. Such a disruption caused so many single people to learn to adjust to solitude and work on transforming themselves.
There’s a rise of lonely, single men.
While transformation is always a great thing, women are increasing their standards. This has made it more challenging for lonely, single men to connect with them.
Researching for her book made Aimée a loneliness expert. She addresses what single men can do to improve their romantic lives.
How do we remove the stigma of being single?
People act like being single is some sort of illness or dooming diagnosis. Why is that? More importantly, what can we do about it? We talk about this topic in this podcast episode.